Preparing for a child custody conference can feel overwhelming, but with some planning, you can present your case effectively. Here are some tips to help you prepare.
The custody conference is an initial step where the court tries to mediate an agreement between parents before a formal hearing. If you reach an agreement at the conference, the agreement is entered as a court order. The conference is less formal than a trial and is conducted by an attorney who works for or contracts with the county court.
If possible, draft a proposed parenting plan detailing your ideal custody schedule, holidays, vacations, and other parenting arrangements. If relevant, bring school attendance records, grades, or medical reports to demonstrate your child’s needs and how you meet them. You can document any significant interactions with your child, caregiving responsibilities, and co-parenting efforts. That way you have a record to refer to instead of relying on your memory.
Outline key points about your relationship with your child, your caregiving role, and your reasons for your preferred custody arrangement. Emphasize how your plan serves the best interests of your child. This may include stability, access to both parents, educational consistency, and emotional support.
Think through any points the other parent might raise and be ready with calm, factual responses. Consider areas where you might be open to compromise. Courts favor parents who show flexibility and willingness to cooperate.
Avoid showing anger or frustration during the conference. Courts prioritize the child’s stability, so staying composed reflects well on your ability to co-parent effectively. Avoid discussing issues that don’t directly affect the child, such as past relationship conflicts.
During the conference, listen carefully. Show that you’re willing to listen to the other parent and the court’s recommendations. Take notes during the conference. Document important points, decisions, or future steps that arise during the conference. Being well-prepared and child-focused can improve your chances of achieving a favorable outcome.
If you live or work in the central Pennsylvania area, including Carlisle, Harrisburg, Hershey and surrounding communities and would like to discuss child custody matters or any other family law or estate planning or administration issue, please contact me.