Who Gets to Keep the Family Pet?
For those who don’t have pets, this may seem like a silly question in the big picture of a divorce. I know first-hand that for many pet owners, this is a very important question that can take on many of...[Continue reading]
The Automatic Two Year Divorce Myth
I’ve had enough clients and other people ask me about the “automatic” two year divorce, that I wanted to address it here. The court does not automatically issue a divorce decree after spouses have been separated for two years or...[Continue reading]
What am I Entitled to?
A lot of clients come to me with the overall question of “What am I entitled to?” In most cases, they mean “What can I expect the financial outcome to be if I get divorced?” and I can appreciate their...[Continue reading]
Why Worry About What My Spouse Needs
If you’re getting divorced, why should you worry about what your spouse (or soon to be ex-spouse) needs? Because it’s going to help you. That’s the self-centered answer. The more you can focus on meeting your spouse’s needs, the more...[Continue reading]
A Recent Project
I recently had the pleasure of creating a podcast with John Gavazzi, PsyD. John is a psychologist and we recorded the podcast for use by psychologists, but it has tremendous potential for non-psychologists also. Here are two different links to...[Continue reading]
An Alternative to Court-Based Divorce
Would you like to handle your divorce privately? Would you like to make the decisions about your family and how it’s going to change instead of having a court make those decisions for you? Would you like to maintain a...[Continue reading]
Counseling and Divorce
I believe everyone going through a divorce should talk with a mental health professional. Psychologist, therapist, social worker, take your pick. I don’t think I’m overreacting. This is a huge, life-changing event and it’s different from other life-changing events, like...[Continue reading]
What about Alimony?
Alimony is support for one spouse after a divorce is finalized. It is a “squishy” area of the law and is different from spousal support or alimony pendente lite. There are no formulas to calculate alimony and no hard and...[Continue reading]
Midnuptial Agreements
What is a midnuptial agreement? It’s an agreement entered into in the middle of a marriage. A prenuptial agreement is before a marriage, a postnuptial agreement is after a marriage has ended and a midnuptial agreement is during a marriage....[Continue reading]
Divorce for Control Freaks
I do not use the term “control freak” in a derogatory or insulting way and hopefully none of the control freaks reading this post take it that way. Control freaks, like me, want to be in control of their own...[Continue reading]